09-18-2020, 02:06 PM
I think the balanced view of things is that it is never personal, so in any situation you become able to access the emotional state of another without making it about yourself. You are more of an observer rather than a player within the confrontation.
This would require a solid foundation of self-esteem, as otherwise your emotional state is heavily at the mercy of what others think of you. A compliment can make you overly joyous and an insult bring you down either in sorrow or anger, while a solid self-esteem would mean that your vision of yourself remains largely unaffected by what others can say.
Anyhow, you can always turn the catalyst in a reflection on your reaction and refine yourself through the process. If you got angry, then see it as an opportunity to process some anger that you may have already contained beforehand and which was triggered. If you want to fight, reflect on where does this combative unprocessed energy comes from and which part of you maybe wants to prove something.
If you are denying yourself the right to process your own energy, then it will cumulate and strike too hard hard in one situation. So even if it's just mentally or through exercise, it is well to let it out and vent your anger in some way.
This would require a solid foundation of self-esteem, as otherwise your emotional state is heavily at the mercy of what others think of you. A compliment can make you overly joyous and an insult bring you down either in sorrow or anger, while a solid self-esteem would mean that your vision of yourself remains largely unaffected by what others can say.
Anyhow, you can always turn the catalyst in a reflection on your reaction and refine yourself through the process. If you got angry, then see it as an opportunity to process some anger that you may have already contained beforehand and which was triggered. If you want to fight, reflect on where does this combative unprocessed energy comes from and which part of you maybe wants to prove something.
If you are denying yourself the right to process your own energy, then it will cumulate and strike too hard hard in one situation. So even if it's just mentally or through exercise, it is well to let it out and vent your anger in some way.