What is the perfect way to respond to an insult/confrontation?

[Louisabell]

I think it always comes back to being truthful, and then kind at the same time, so this is why Dtris suddenly things become easier.

As Louisabell says,  if  we  realize we are all of it,  then whatever is said to us a an insult is just depicting one side of us, and if we are ok with that, we cannot feel insulted because we know we are that but we are not just that, we are all the rest too.

I think watching cruelty for me feels insulting because it's like a hurt inflicted on someone who is also me and there is difficulty in feeling the pain of others, there is also perhaps shame, or rather regret shared that someone else who is also myself can be insulting someone else.

Thanks Flofrog, that is a perfect explanation of what I meant!

As far as I try to see it (and it's only a try, I'm not always successful) is that someone else's biases in how they chose to see me is not really my concern.