Being consciously unloving.

[Patrick]

Acting is one thing, beingness is another. We may act for sometime until we can learn "to be" more loving. !st to ourselves and then to All others.
After all, we are here to learn both loving and unloving ways of being and then the balance between the two, well, if that is our path.
I find it is more balanced to accept the other as it is instead of what I feel or think the entity should be.

Accepting someone as they are is certainly the most desirable but how do you accept when someone actively and willfully hurts others. I can not respect someone who chooses to harm others and knows they have issues and simply don't care to change. Its truly archaic and cowardly not to be willing to work on yourself when you know you have deficits. You should always be improving yourself. Cource that's a choice too.

Accepting someone actively and willfully hurting others does not mean you agree with what they are doing. You can protect yourself and others from such while still accepting them as being heavily confused and in need of love and healing.