The one important rule about spiritual evolution is everyone awakens in its own terms. This is why Q/A is the only form of information exchange accepted by Confederation. Proselytism is the way religion works but is not the correct way, and results in distortions created by the teacher in the mind of the student. Q/A only results in distortions created by the student in its own mind which is the only acceptable way from STO point of view. You can suggest to someone an idea but you must let him/her reject it freely if you want to be of service.
Other important aspect about incarnation is that we receive from our close relations the help we need in order to learn our per-incarnation planed lessons. For example I could have married any of the women I knew but very likely they will have ended up treating me almost the same way my wife does only because I need (and I create) this type of relation in my life for a reason. It might be frustrating seeing it from this illusion but it was considered necessary before the incarnation started. The truth is (as Q'uo states) that people around us are the most genuine mirrors of ourselves. If we dislike what we see in them, we must understand that something in us is at fault, and needs correction. Once we learn our lesson the problem goes away but it is hard to learn the lesson unfortunately. A close relation in or life is not random but carefully planed regardless of how painful it seems. As long we understand that the key to solve the issue stays with us we are on the correct path.
Other important aspect about incarnation is that we receive from our close relations the help we need in order to learn our per-incarnation planed lessons. For example I could have married any of the women I knew but very likely they will have ended up treating me almost the same way my wife does only because I need (and I create) this type of relation in my life for a reason. It might be frustrating seeing it from this illusion but it was considered necessary before the incarnation started. The truth is (as Q'uo states) that people around us are the most genuine mirrors of ourselves. If we dislike what we see in them, we must understand that something in us is at fault, and needs correction. Once we learn our lesson the problem goes away but it is hard to learn the lesson unfortunately. A close relation in or life is not random but carefully planed regardless of how painful it seems. As long we understand that the key to solve the issue stays with us we are on the correct path.
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