Caring/Compassion/Sensitivity/Tact vs Lying/Faking

[Namaste]

Now, what I was doing, is countering your assertion that being brutally 'honest' with a young child, to the point of hurting that child and squashing her joy, is somehow desirable and even, in your words, "the right thing." You seem to insist that it is correct, appropriate, and even optimal for an STO-polarizing entity to disregard the feelings of an other-self and just tell them whatever you happen to feel or think, regardless of the possibility that you might be wrong, and regardless of the probability that you will severely hurt the entity.

That is what I am contesting.

It is possible that the 'honest' person desires more to serve his/her need of being honest than desires considering the needs of the other to hear his/her 'honest' opinion.

Is that not then service to self? :¬)

Having said that, not all actions are either STO or STS, black or white. They are a mix, one can polarise positively, yet have varying degrees of depolarisation due to negative influences. And visa-versa of course.