2023-05-16

I did the Morning Offering and then got myself ready for the day. Today the 102 quote comes from Chapter Four and the concept of parenting:

Parenting

Perhaps to sum up our encouragement of the parent who wishes to know about discipline, we should suggest, number one, that they would live as they would suggest their children to live; number two, that they be honest in their dealings with those souls given into their care, meaning what they say and saying what they mean. And thirdly, when discipline is to be accomplished, allow that discipline to be such a one as may perhaps sting the pride of the young soul in a private way, but not in such a way that others might know that this soul is being disciplined, and that by this much loved parent.

Thus, we move the focus of discipline of children into two areas. Firstly, the arena of the parent, in which the parent is encouraged to think deeply about stressing the spiritual, the just, and the lovely; and second, the arena of the child, in which the child may learn to trust the honesty of the parent and may learn by imitation those things which are to be learned. We know that parents and children and all entities whatever shall fall and clamber up again many times. Mistakes are made upon top of mistakes, yet there is one deep and fathomless thing which binds parent to child, and that is love, for the parent cannot help but love the child, nor can the child help but love the parent. Let this love be communicated. Let this love be celebrated. Never let this love be taken for granted. Love each other, for you are both pilgrims upon the road, parent and child. The parent must do a good deal of guiding, suggesting and, yes, disciplining, for the best road to learn has its limits, its right side and its left side, and beyond that road lie desolate deserts of experience which are not helpful in the sense of learning of love.[1]

In this quote Q’uo gave some very spiritually sound advice for parents to guide their children into the most effective growth of their minds, bodies, and spirits. Q’uo’s first suggestion was that the most effective kind of discipline is that parents live as they would have their children live. This goes beyond the most common and always inadequate “do as I say” dictum. If a picture is worth a thousand words, then behaving as you would wish your child to behave is like a living book to be read and studied continuously by the children.

Q’uo’s second suggestion was that parents use honesty in their communication with their children. Not only should parents behave as they would wish their children to behave, but they should say exactly what they mean—hopefully in a loving manner—and they should mean what they say. I think this asks the parent to be consistent in both their actions and their words when communicating with their children. Again, I believe that the language of love balanced with the clarity of wisdom might be most effective in raising a child.

And Q’uo’s third suggestion was that if it becomes necessary to discipline the child in a way that might “sting the pride of the young soulthat this discipline be done in private and not in the view of others. Keeping such a discipline private ensures the least amount of embarrassment for the child and keeps the child’s attention focused on the discipline and not on being embarrassed by others witnessing the discipline.

In the second paragraph of Q’uo’s thoughts on parenting, Q’uo suggested that parents constantly be guided by the overarching principles of how to keep all communications and behaviors spiritually imbued, fair and honest, and, most of all, full of love. If these qualities can become a natural and continual way of interacting with the child, then the child can learn to trust the parents’ honesty. This trust will, in turn, allow the child to learn by imitating the trusted and loved parents. And when the inevitable mistakes are made by either parent or child, there is the abiding love between parents and children that will become the saving grace of both. The parents who are Players will emphasize their love for their children above any mistake which will allow the child to do the same.

Those of Ra had a few additions to Q’uo’s thoughts regarding the more basic ways of how parents could teach their children.

The appropriate teach/learning device of parent to child is the open-hearted beingness of the parent and the total acceptance of the beingness of the child. This will encompass whatever material the child entity has brought into the life experience in this plane.

There are two things especially important in this relationship other than the basic acceptance of the child by the parent.

Firstly, the experience of whatever means the parent uses to worship and give thanksgiving to the One Infinite Creator should, if possible, be shared with the child entity upon a daily basis, as you would say.

Secondly, the compassion of parent to child may well be tempered by the understanding that the child entity shall learn the biases of service to others or service to self from the parental other-self. This is the reason that some discipline is appropriate in the teach/learning. This does not apply to the activation of any one energy center, for each entity is unique, and each relationship with self and other-self doubly unique. The guidelines given are only general for this reason.[2]

First, Ra recommended that parents should be able to be completely open-hearted in their expression of their beingness to their children. Again, this suggests a concentration on open-hearted love being shared with the child at all times. This should become the language of the parents to the child. Ra also recommended that parents should completely accept the beingness of the child however it is manifested. The beingness of the child reflects those attributes that the child has brought with it into the present incarnation and the pre-incarnative choices that the child has made.

Then Ra suggested that the parents should share with the child the way that the parents “worship and give thanksgiving to the One Infinite Creator”and do this with the child on a daily basis, not just Sunday, but daily. I can only imagine how uplifting and inspiriting this type of sacramental sharing of the spiritual path could become for any child that was able to receive such a gift from its parents every day. It might even help to deflect the type of peer pressure that most kids are subject to from other kids to misbehave and test limits set by parents or teachers.

Ra finished their comments on raising children by suggesting that parents should teach their children the concept of being of service to others or of service to self. It is interesting to me that then Ra said that this type of teaching of the purpose of the life path might be the reason that some discipline would be necessary as part of this learning process. I am assuming that the discipline would be to correct actions that were not of a service-to-others nature for positively-oriented parents. The discipline would add a certain clarity to the teaching of the child what service to others meant and did not mean when put into action.

Q’uo had some additional thoughts to share about the beingness of a child:

First of all, we would suggest that each person see each new child not just as a child of a mother and a father of third density, but as a child of the One Infinite Creator, for in truth, that is the nature of each child and each entity upon this planet. Seeing each child as the Creator, look then to how the Creator within all may be apprehended and taught to this child as a means of daily inspiration and recognition of the Creator that exists in all. Find a manner in which you may share your love of the One Creator with this child upon a regular basis, just as you learn arithmetic and reading in your schooling system, teach them the oneness of all creation, teach them the unconditional love of all creation, teach them the light of truth of all creation, teach them the interrelatedness of all entities within the one creation, and most especially at this time, upon the planet you call Earth. Q’uo, September 14, 2019.

I think that actually keeping in mind that children are also the Creator is a very helpful overview through which to perceive children. Of course they are certainly young Creators, but they contain the same Creator as all entities do, as all of the creation does. When we interact with children I think it is easier to see the Creator within them since children still have more of the loving innocence about them that reflects the love of the Creator back to us. Seeing the Creator in children might be good training for us to see the Creator in everyone we meet in our daily round of activities.

This morning we got a little rain, so I was able to remove watering my flower gardens from my to-do list for today. This is also the day for the primary election for each party to choose which candidates that they want to run for governor, so I went to the nearby Presbyterian Church where we vote here in Anchorage to cast my vote. Then I went over to the City Clerk’s office to apply for a permit to put up our sign for “Diagonal Parking” in front of the pet cemetery during our Homecoming Gathering the last weekend of May. My last stop was Walgreen’s to pick up a prescription, some ice cream, and some paper plates.

This afternoon it was still raining, so I decided to vacuum the three bedrooms in the basement plus the bathroom as friends will be staying in these bedrooms during Homecoming. Then I noticed that the rain had stopped, so I was able to finish the weeding in the Ruins Mound and around the bird feeder area.

From A Book of Days, channeled by Carla L. Rueckert:

May 16

Go Abroad In Happiness

I am of the principle of Jesus the Christ and I greet you in the full consciousness of love.

Be it known that happiness is not necessarily a burden. We say this because we find this instrument, this morning, bemoaning the awkwardness of a happy spirit which does not seem to produce the fruits that an unhappy spirit produces.

The spirit is with each always, not only in times of trouble but also in times of rejoicing. It is the soul’s difficulty that in times of happiness it is far easier to become oblivious to the wants and needs of the spirit within. The spirit within would always be giving. And, indeed, the happy soul is often content to stay at home amidst the accoutrements of living which have produced such contentment.

Therefore, go abroad in happiness, sensitive as always to the winds that blow from the spirit saying, “Come hither! Touch, feel and sense the spirit at work in and through each soul!”

We hope we leave you in a state of readiness; readiness to turn outward to others and inward to God. In that balance lies peace, now and forever. Amen.

I said the prayer at the Gaia Meditation tonight:

We come in the name of love and open our hearts, minds, and souls to send love, light, and healing energy to Mother Earth as she brings forth a new Earth in the fourth density. We ask that the infinite love, light and healing energy of the One Infinite Creator heal the hearts of all souls in pain on Earth tonight. May all souls on Earth feel our love, light, and healing energy in their hearts, their minds, and their souls. Amen.


[1] Q’uo, January 10, 1988.

[2] The Ra Contact: Teaching the Law of One, 42.20.